среда, 19 октября 2016 г.

Can men and woman ever be just friends?

Today im watched a perfect film 'When Harry Met Sally'. This film about the big question 'Can men and woman ever be just friends?' and the spoiler answer 'No, they cant :D'
Throughout the film, we can see how changing nature of the main characters and their relationship to life.


Sally.


Sally takes the thought process very seriously. She uses her deliberate way of thinking to handle everything from heartache to everyday, practical matters:
'I have this all figured out. It’s an eighteen hour trip, which breaks down to six shifts of three hours each. Or, alternatively, we could break it down by mileage. There’s a map on the visor, I’ve marked it to show the locations where we can change shifts.'
Sally strictly adheres to her own code of propriety. As an example, when Harry offers Sally a grape she refuses, informing him she never eats between meals. Sally foregoes marriage to Joe to avoid certain future consequences such as a non-existent sex life.

Sally attempts to control all aspects of her life, even when ordering dessert, which drives Harry crazy:
Sally:  You know what I’d like is the apple pie a la mode…But I’d like the pie heated, and I don’t want the ice cream on top, I want it on the side. And I’d like strawberry instead of vanilla if you have it. If not, then no ice cream, just whipped cream, but only if it’s real. If it’s out of the can then nothing.
Waitress:  Not even the pie?
Sally:  No, just the pie. But then not heated.

As the waitress leaves, Harry stares in disbelief at Sally.
Sally takes certain measures to protect herself from hurt. Although she thinks this strategy is the best thing for her, she is undermining her chance at happiness:
Sally:  I’ve experienced my loss. I’ve had my mourning period. I’m done with it.
Harry:  What mourning period? One hour in Bloomingdale’s. You bought a pocketbook and heartbreak flew right out the window.  If you’re so over Joe why haven’t you been seeing anyone?

Sally is precise individual. She neatly organized her environment and emotions. It is when she comes up against Harry that she finally learns to let her proverbial hair down.

Harry.


During the course of the story, all the while discussing his conflicts, Harry is active.  He participates in “the wave” at a football game while confessing his troubles to Jess; power walks; practices his swing at the batting cages; and so forth.
Harry’s style is to confront issues head on. He is not always tactful, but he is always honest.
Harry’s attitude when confronting an issue is to blurt out what he is thinking or feeling and “let the chips fall where they may.”

Harry is most sensitive to the thematic concerns of approach vs. attitude, especially in the area of male and female relationships. As an example, after his chance encounter with his ex-wife he tries to convince Jess and Marie (who have just moved in with each other) to prepare for a possible break up:
Harry:  (shouting now) I mean it. Put your name in your books. Now, while you’re unpacking them, before they get all mixed up together and you can’t remember whose is whose. Because someday, believe it or not, you’re going to be fighting over who’s going to get this coffee table, this stupid wagon wheel coffee table. 

Harry’s reasoning that men and women cannot be both friends and lovers causes problems for him. His wife, who he loved, but married because he was tired of “the whole life-of-a-single-guy thing” leaves him, and his true best friend gives up on him after he explains to her their night of lovemaking was a mistake, “I’m not saying it didn’t mean anything, I’m just saying why does it have to mean everything

Harry follows the logical steps of college, law school, career, and marriage. When his wife leaves him, he cruises through love-em and leave-em one-night stands while he slowly develops a truly intimate relationship with his best (girl) friend.
Harry has always been a logical person, and up until meeting Sally, his logic has always worked for him, especially in the area of romance:
Sally:  Amanda mentioned you had a dark side.
Harry:  (pleased with himself) That’s what drew her to me…when I get a new book, I read the last page first. That way, if I die before I finish I know how it comes out…
Sally:  (irritated now) It doesn’t mean you’re deep or anything.


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